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Original: 3/19/2007 9:33 PM
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Monday, March 19, 2007

Labels

 

(inspired by a chat with Simon)

     So have you ever realized how into labels we are?  We aren't satisfied to just let things be.  We have to know where we stand with people.  Are we merely acquaintances?  Are we pals?  Are we as close as family? Are we ACTUALLY family?  Are we best friends?  Are we . . . have we decided what we are?
     A friend of mine asked me this evening why it was so difficult just to let things be.  He was advising me in a specific situation.  There's this guy I really like who probably isn't ready for a relationship right now, having just painfully come out of a very long and serious one. 
     This guy is absolutely amazing, and he seems to think I'm pretty amazing, as well, but I've begun doubting lately.  Not doubting how I feel about this guy . . . I've known how I've felt for a while.  But doubting how this guy actually feels about me.  It's possible that I am an "emotional stabilizer" (to use Simon's term) and that my role for now is to help this guy find a sense of normalcy in his recently-turned-upside-down world.
     But is that all I am to be?  That's the possibility I have to be open to.  And I've come to the realization that I am far more invested in what may not even exist than I had cared to acknowledge before.
     So, since ignorance can only be an excuse once, and now that I know what I'm doing, what decisions do I make from here?
     And, see, this is where I try to put labels on things.  I posted a few blogs back about packing things up in boxes with labels on them.  Well, you know what?  Maybe not everything HAS a label.  Maybe some things are just laying out, without labels.  Maybe there just there to be.  Maybe discovering them is part of the adventure.
     Maybe I should just know what my boundaries are, what my moral obligations are, and just experience life from there.  Let go of needless inhibition and just LIVE.  
     Maybe I should just throw away the box labeled "Things to Worry About" and just trust in God.  If I get hurt, then it means I needed to learn something.  But if my focus is on God, then there really is nothing to worry about.  Just read Jeremiah 29:11.

Label THAT.

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I love it. I love the fact that you want to throw labels out. I was just discussing this idea with someone tonight, although not in so eloquent a manner. It seems that we don't know what to do withourselves unless we have labels for everything and everyone. Why is it so important? I think you pretty much nailed it on the head, it boils down to trust on God. Instead of trusting Him, we think we have to have it all figured out, the things, the people, the relationships, etc.

Recently I heard a teaching about Dove's eyes and how they are stationary and can only see in one direction at a time. This is how we are supposed to be with Christ. Keeping our eyes on Him and everything else will work itself out. Good, bad, or ugly, it won't matter because we'll have our eyes on the only One who does matter.

Great post. Keep focused on Him.
Posted 3/20/2007 2:29 AM by Enzomer - reply

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I think our desire to label everything comes from our need for order and discipline. In a chat with my friend 'Posh' she recently expressed confusion as to how I could refer to my lifelong buddies as 'friends' while at the same time giving that same title to the people I regularly speak with at my gym. She also was similarly confused as to how I might sometimes refer to xanga people as friends when in truth I may not know much about that person.

She coined a new and ridiculous term. "Fre." A "fre" is someone you like and have a fairly transient relationship with, they're someone you are interested in knowing and know to a certain extent, but they do not qualify for the label of "friend."

Of course she was joking, but her humor revealed a deeper need for order and discipline to the extent that referring to someone from the gym as a "friend" would actually call her to question the label in such a way. I realized that part of her problem with my apparent flippant use of the label was that it called into question where she stood in my life, what her worth and role was. In awarding someone I only know in passing the title of "friend" I had unwittingly made her feel somewhat devalued.

Labels give everyone a sense of belonging and purpose I think. If I have a title/label then I am defined and I can therefore better understand my position and that role in life. They make us a part of something and to that end they are good I suppose. But we live in a society that seems to obsess over titles and labels to such an extent that being undefined leaves many of us feeling uncomfortable and unsure.

You write "If my focus is on God, then there really is nothing to worry about." then challenge us to "Label THAT" - Well that's easy, I label that right now for you. Christian.

Labels are everywhere. My theory is that we shouldn't obsess over them to the degree that we often do.
Posted 3/20/2007 8:09 PM by thekingofnonomia Xanga True Member - reply

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     You are so quick to label that "Christian," Simon Jones, yet where do I mention Jesus?  Yes, I am a Christian, but my comment or statement was not.  It was merely spiritual.  Even my Scripture reference was Old Testament . . . PRE-Jesus!! 
     Oh, and post your own soapbox.  I'm still on mine!    I tease, I tease!  Love ya, bud!
Posted 3/20/2007 11:30 PM by SuperFunBeth - reply

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